Reality Check

Monday, March 31, 2014

Wow! Well that was an unexpected break....and a long one at that. My life has been all over place this month. I really needed to step back and analyze some things. I was also a little bummed about my latest visit to the doctors. I was diagnosed with chronic kidney stones, which means a big change in what I can eat, and adding a lot of lemon water to my daily routine. I've always been such a healthy person, and a health nut, that this has made me a little depressed. I think mostly because I had to cut back on chocolate! On top of that, we have a very dear family member who has been in the hospital. They haven't been doing well, and it has had us all very worried. I know this sounds cliche, but Life is truly too short. We're all praying and hoping for the best.

On a completely different note, I'm excited that spring is finally showing up here. The weather is a little warmer here on the Jersey Shore. I thought it was never going to come! Now we can hear the peepers (little frogs) which means warm weather is right around the corner! I'm crossing my fingers for upper 60's, even though it's been super rainy. I love the rain, but I'm ready for things to dry up a little. I want to go to the beach so bad! I miss the sand between my toes....but it wont be long :)

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Geeky Confessions - Game of Thrones

Wednesday, March 5, 2014


Having a nerd moment here...haha. I won Spock in a claw machine...I'm pretty good at those.
I am a huge fan of the Game of Thrones series. I love the books and the show! The necklace I'm wearing was a surprise from my wife, and I love it! It came from Kitsch Kat Keepsakes etsy shop. My wife has one too! If you know the books or the show, you would know that my necklace is written in Dothraki, and it means: moon of my life. The pendant has a crown around it. She got me this because my favorite character is Daenerys Targaryen (Dany in the book) or better known as Khaleesi in the HBO series. Now here is where it gets even cheesier. My wife has the same necklace but hers says: My sun and stars...ha! We are such geeks! At least I don't have to geek out alone!
And if you're wondering, I do love Star Trek, but don't worry...I don't speak Klingon!
Via :
I found this pretty figurine on the HBO website. I love it so much! I might have to buy it. I also think this Halloween we're all going to have to dress up like our favorite characters! Well me and Jes at least. The kids don't watch the show. I might let Cody watch it now, since he is 14, but I'm pretty strict when it comes to shows with a lot of sex and violence.
Are you a fan too? April 6th can't come soon enough!!
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Being a Lesbian

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Sorry for the absence! I haven't been feeling well lately, and I got a new computer! So between being sick and trying to set up my new computer, I thought I was never going to finish this post. Anyway, I don't think I have ever written about what being a lesbian is like for me on here, simply because I hate labels. I did say in my post about my New Year resolutions that I would write more about topics that are very important to me. Being gay, lesbian, bi, queer, transgender and so forth, is not an easy thing to do. I can't stand when people say "oh it's just a phase" no, it's not. I also can't stand when people say it's a choice. You can argue this with me until you are blue in the face, and we will have to agree to disagree, because it is not a choice. I have dated men, and it never works out because I'm gay, plain and simple.

The most interesting part of being a lesbian though......are the questions!

So let me share some FAQ's : 

Q: If you're a lesbian, than how did you have children? 

A: My uterus still works, and any woman can have a baby without having actual intercourse. I know many straight couples who have had invitro. This is a very personal question, and I find it rude. Everyone's story is different. My children have a father (yes, the same one, that's a common question for me too) and they know him, but my kids have only been raised by me and my ex-wife,and current wife. 

Q: Oh you're married? (Because they notice the ring) What does your husband do?

A: My wife works for a chiropractor...let the awkwardness begin. Whenever I get asked about my "husband" I cringe inside. Sometimes I just go along with it , but the only people who ask this range in the 60's and up. I guess it was okay for that generation to ask strangers invasive questions. Now-a-days the economy is so horrible, I almost feel like it's a trick question. It's not uncommon anymore for there to be stay-at-home dads or so forth. What if my husband has passed away? I just think if you're trying to make small talk, please just stick with the weather. 

Q: So who is the guy in the relationship?

A: This question is more common than you would think. No one is the "guy" we are both female. In my relationship there aren't any gender specific roles. We compliment each other. Yes, my wife is butch and I'm super girly...but I bring home the bacon and she makes sure the kids always have  what they need. I have to ask if I can make dinner! She also does most of cleaning, pays the bills and so forth. Never judge a book by it's cover....and never stereotype people.

Q: Are you raising your kids gay?

A: First of all WHAT? How do you even do that? Yes I was asked this question in front of a group of people by a complete stranger. I'll tell you exactly what I said: "No. I'm raising my children to be functioning well-rounded people in our society." I'm a total Mama Bear and I was ready to rip this girls head off. Mind you I'm pretty reserved. This girl ended up apologizing later, and tried to be my friend..... Sooooo did not happen.

All in all, I don't mind answering any questions. In fact I encourage it. I know there's a lot of people who don't understand what life is like for gay people, but to put it simply, we are just as human an anyone else. Most of us just live simple lives, pretty much just trying to blend in with the rest of society (and I'm using "blend in" very loosely) and date or marry who we want. It's not complicated.